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Do you know who your friends are?

Friends.
What are friends for? Everyone in our lives will question their friends from time to time.

Always take time to evaluate your friends list/circle/group

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Who is your true friend?

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What makes a true friend?

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What happens when you find out your friend isn’t so great after all? Let-go.

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How do true friends act, or make you feel?

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Push Yourself

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We get upset about how life is turning out, but forget

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You feel like things aren’t getting done? canva-arrow-mab5nccl-pw Maybe it isn’t so pick yourself up, and do something about it.

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Can’t think straight?
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It may seem hard to do all this..to pick yourself up when you feel your lowest.
I know it can be hard, but at least try.
You’re worth it.
Tell yourself you’re worth it.
Don’t give up on yourself even when you feel like the entire world has given up on you.
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I don’t want to say goodbye 

Saying goodbye can be the hardest thing in the world .

                                            Maybe that is the deepest sadness one can feel?

Saying goodbye doesn’t feel so good.

Saying goodbye is painful…

How do you even do it without going back a few times…

Maybe realizing in the end that you never wanted to say goodbye, but it was a need to be done.

Where do we go, how do we go about after we say goodbye?


          We don’t want to say goodbye. I know we wish we didn’t have to either. 


But I know…that I don’t want to say goodbye.

A Dark Time

Sometimes I am afraid.

I am afraid to be alone.

I don’t want to endure a specific journey of life by myself. We are told to be strong, but at times I am so weak. 

I find myself lost staring into the dark blank cieling in my room. 

Who am I suppose to be.

I’ve lost people, and a special one, and I’ve lost myself. Wounds are so fresh, I tell myself not to do anything crazy, I tell myself to not drown my feelings. 

I can keep telling myself things, but what I feel conquers over my strength. Is it too early , is this because I’m at the early stages of healing. I can’t help but blame, and keep putting blame

I’m so angry… I know I need to be strong, but all I want to do is SCREAM and CRY, and lay back down into my dark coma of frozen time. 

Are You Emotionally Intelligent?

Being EMOTIONALLY INTELLIGENT has its benefits.1081px-check_mark_23x20_02-svg

Emotional Intelligence aka EI, or EQ, is when a person can understand their own, and other people’s feelings. They are able to control these emotions so it impacts them in a
positive way.
Are you Emotionally Intelligent? LET’S FIND OUT!

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ARE YOU…

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    You know what makes you happy, and you know what makes you tick. Did you know that your emotions affect how you behave, and your thoughts? Even being self-aware affects your level of self-confidence.
  • Self-Managable?
    Whatever negative experiences you go through, you manage to overcome them. You understand how to control these emotions and behaviours that can be acted upon impulse.5127-eq-head
  • Socially Aware?
    You are able to recognize the emotions of others. You can identify the needs of people, and are comfortable in doing this.
  • Can you Manage Relationships?
    This is no problem for you. The relationships you have with people ar0425_emotionalintelligence-800x480e maintained well. Even meeting new people, you know how to develop those relationships into meaningful ones so you can womaxresdefaultrk well with others. You are a leader, and help others. Also, you know how to deal with a conflict when an issue arises in a relationship.
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Here are some quick and easy tips:

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Be Honest With Yourself
You know you’re feeling a type of way, but you deny it. People may ask you how you feel, and you tell them you’re doing okay when you’re not. Be honest, and open up. This is a part of being yourself, and learning to understand, and control your feelings.be-honest-sm
Understand The Feeling of Others
How do you react when someone is sad, mad, happy, etc? Understand other people’s body language because sometimes we are not able to see past their words, but their body language gives off their true feelings. Are you more negative, and not understanding towards someone when they are feeling down? Do you put yourself in other peoples shoes? It’s good to communicate to a close family member, or friend to help you see what some of your reactions are, and how you can improve because we are not always aware of our own actions/reactions.

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Look at both sides of the coin:
We are strong to our opinions, and values. When someone does not agree with us it can alter how we feel by making us feel upset, and aggravated. If you are ever in this type of situation, do not get upset, but try to understand why they agree, and think this way. Look at both sides of a story. Also, if you don’t agree with how someone feels, try to understand the different factors that could be making them feel like this. Always ask questions

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Don’t let our minds control us, we control our minds:
We are human so we realize we have these emotions, and feelings. We can’t stop ourselves from feeling, but we have the power in ourselves to decide how to react to how we feel. For example, someone says something to upset you, and you’re use to attacking back, and saying something to hurt them. This is where your emotional intelligence will kick in. Try taking deep breathes, and taking a moment to understand the situation. There are others ways to address an issue instead of lashing out. Always remember that something that does not make you angry, or sad the nextdsay is not worth dwelling, or thinking about. It is just a temporary feeling.

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Want to understand more about emotional intelligence?
Check out this website with more information and tips:

http://www.success.com/article/7-qualities-of-people-with-high-emotional-intelligence

 

 

 

Are You Materialistic?

Do you ever wonder why we buy many things,  but in the end we find that it does not make us happy.
Ah, materialimoney-root-of-evilsm.  Materialism consumes us from meme-thinking-face-1920x1080the
clothes we wear, products we choose to buy, technology we choose to use, and more!

Materialism is: “a way of thinking that gives too much importance to material possessions rather than to spiritual or intellectual things”

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The more money you have, it equals to a higher status in life, but this comes at a $price$, which you’d have to spend a lot to show a lot. Is it worth it? You may be a victim to the dollar bill, or coin. Money can also become an addiction. It is the root of all evil.

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You see someone who has it all, and they seem so happy having it all.  You start to think their life is genuinely better than yours. NEVER judge a book by its cover. You don’t know what problems they may be facing.

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Media brain washes people into thinking that if you don’t have a certain item, you are missing out. They even make people think that if they don’t obtain these possessions, they won’t be as happy. They make you find connections between that product & happiness. How cruel they trap us.

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When some are feeling down, they shop to fill voids. Retail therapy. Well, buying things you like can sure ease your moment of sadness, and stress, but once you don’t need that item, or desire it the way you use to…guess what, you’re going to start to feel sad…& stressed…again…yup…sigh.

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Everyone has some sort of social media network. We are always looking at what other individuals have. There is the pressure to have the top brands. In some social circles, if you don’t keep up with a certain lifestyle, you just won’t be a part of it anymore, and if you don’t have the funds, it sure is going to make your bank account plummet.   If only we could look beyond what everyone had, and just look at their character, and personalities. Wouldn’t the world be richer?

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Here’s some advice.
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Get rid of the clutter. Get rid of your possessions you do not need. Things you may desire now, may not be desired later.

Life is short. In the end, your possessions do not follow you to the grave. Live life to the fullest. EXPERIENCE LIFE.

Be grateful. Make a list of what you already have.  It’s the small pleasures in life we enjoy the most.

Find meaning in the items you want, or already have. Is/was it worth it?

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More?

Am I not aware…. of today’s society, or just not educated enough?

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download (1) I’m not saying expressing yourself through fashion is bad, but is there not more than the physicals of life?  How many are motivating and inspiring other women, but not by the make-up and the clothes they share on social media, but beyond what the eye can see. What’s going on? Are we deemed to impress? Are we really free?
download (2).jpg Do we take our rights of being equal into account? Do we strive to do more than just entertain the eyes of the young, the eyes of men and the eyes of many who don’t appreciate the complexity and beauty of our inner-selves? Why can’t some of our passions be more than to just decorate the physical body, but decorate the character of our souls and minds? Will this all take time?

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Let’s talk Anxiety

Let’s be real.

Anxiety is experienced by everyone at different times. No need to put others down if they’re in distress. Be there for one another. Make your communities strong. You are not alone. We have each other.

BUT…wait…What’s anxiety though?

WEB DEFINTION ”a feeling of worry, nervousness, or unease, typically about an imminent event or something with an uncertain outcome”

So you’re saying anxiety happens when we feel as though a dangerous outcome may occur.
Hmm…let’s break it down.

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Basically anxiety is made up of:
THOUGHTS (Think) x BODY SENSATIONS (Feel) x ACTIONS (Do)

  1. THOUGHTS  of anything that can possibly go wrong (negative thoughts, doubts,etc)
  2. BODY SENSATIONS of feeling weak, dizzy, the sweats, numb, pain in the chest, your hearts activity, etc
  3. ACTIONS we project from being anxious, such as hyperventilating, biting of nails, avoiding situations/people, ritualistic behaviours (WHAT in the world? Basically things we do a lot without being aware i.e. safe routes, safe clothes, comfort foods, checking the time)

So now we know the basics of what anxiety is…
HOW CAN WE COPE WITH ANXIETY?
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1.  THOUGHTS.

When we essentially start to think that something bad is going to happen, we tend to over-think about it. STOP OVER-THINKING! This brings in a toxic mind with toxic thoughts.  Do you really want this kind of energy?

Counter these thoughts with questions like:

  • What’s the worst thing that can happen? (But…did you die? Not to sound rude, but that kind of is the worst possible thing to happen)
  • I’m thinking all these negative thoughts, and I remember being in this situation before. So what did I do about it? What can I do about it? Always find solutions. Always overcome your obstacles. Be brave. Be strong!

2. BE AWARE. ALWAYS PUSH FORWARD, NOT BACKWARDS.

Learn to face what you’re fearing. BE AWARE. How did you start to become anxious? Who, What Where, When, Why, and How? Always challenge yourself. Step out of your comfort zone. NOTHING GROWS IN YOUR COMFORT ZONE EXCEPT MISERY.
Remember, it takes time to overcome obstacles. Be patient with yourself.

Easy steps for self development and growth:

  • What is the problem?
  • Find (I suggest type/write/audio record) solutions to that problem.
  • Set goals on how to overcome this problem with your solution.
  • Work on those goals. Never stop putting in that work. Nothing comes easy.
  • If there was no success the first time, then change your solutions, or change your goals, and try again. You are here for a reason, and it’s to overcome and become a stronger you.

3. TAKING CARE OF YOURSELF. KEEP BUSY.

  • Find a hobby you like. Learn something new. You have one life, go ahead and live it. Find things that interest you and pursue them.
  • Take your mind off of what is bothering you. Put some music on. Go for a walk, or go to the gym. There are also group work-out sessions at gyms.
  • Get enough sleep every night. With a lack of sleep, people tend to feel more anxious.

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This is a great site in how to overcome anxiety without taking medication. Check it out!
http://www.calmclinic.com/anxiety/how-to-overcome

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In need of someone to talk to? You are not alone. There are people who care.

  • Ontario has the Mental Health Helpline – 1-866-531-2600
  • Kids Help Phone: 1-800-668-6868
  • York Support Services Network: 1-855-310-COPE (2673)

International? I found an amazing site with several countries from around the world, and their helplines! Check it out!  http://togetherweare-strong.tumblr.com/helpline

 

 

I can get up

I can’t get up.
My sorrows are so heavy that I’m not so tough.
How did I get to be like this?
All I want to be is lifted, & all I wanted was bliss.
I can’t stand this feeling anymore.
I want to be free, and I want to do me!
I’m breaking my chains that keep me grounded.
Nothing will stop me now because today is my day.
I will no longer be bounded…
To the sorrows that keep me in jail &
To everyone who said I would fail!
I am free, & I am me.
I will succeed , just wait & see.
I can get up.
My sorrows are not so heavy .
I am to live this one life I have, and nothing can stop me.
I have learnt that life is filled with ups & downs, but keep your head held high with a beautiful crown.
Just take that first step & trust in oneself because one day you’ll look back & be so happy you took the time to invest in yourself
I am free, & I am me.
I will succeed , just wait & see.

Who said?

Who said you couldn’t do it?

You are capable of doing anything. Put your all and all into something. Do not fear. Things are not easy at first, but will be easier in the end. Never let anyone crush your dreams, and goals. Don’t give up. You can do this. There will be people who won’t support you. There will be people out there who will ridicule you, and bring toxic words, and thoughts into your mind. Be strong. You are capable. You are strong.

Who said you couldn’t do it? Let’s prove them wrong.

Letting go of Notions

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Look beyond what the eyes can see. Feel what the heart wants to feel. Don’t take life for granted. Life is short . Keep it simple.

Do not over-TAC (Think, Assume, Compare)

Everything is so different when you’re dating someone new. I was in a relationship for 5 years and we became so close that even the silence was beautiful together. We couldnt pull through , and didn’t work out. Very heart breaking to know that after all the years loving this one person, the love just couldn’t continue. I’m dating an amazing man now, but I find it very difficult. I find myself comparing at times, and I wish I didn’t. They are two different individuals with different thinking , emotions, and more. At times I find myself anxious and nervous because I feel as though I am boring my boyfriend. I don’t know how he feels when we are silent also. Our relationship hasn’t been that long, and I’m fearing about these small things. I’d have to take my small deep breathes, and realize with patience and time, our love will grow stronger. I was worrying about things I couldn’t control , such as the silence, days we didn’t have much to do , and more. remember this quote “you don’t miss the water until the well runs dry”. I realized that my boyfriend does make me happy, and if we are doing amazing so just imagine what months, and years down the line will bring.

Do not over assume, over think, and compare. It brings a negative mind, and toxcity to your thoughts.

Have a clear mind. Focus on the nows. You don’t know what you have till its gone, but you knew exactly what you had, and just took it for granted.

As everyone has heard of this quote “live as though it is your last days” so you should love as though it is your last days.

Ocams Razor. Keep it simple stupid.

Do not over-TAC (Think, Assume, Compare)

Getting bullied, beauty,and staying strong

I remember growing up it was really painful. Painful experiences. Not everyone I met in my life was nice to me. Society is strange. We have to look a certain way to be accepted. I did certainly not look that certain way, and nor did I care especially when I was a young child in elementary, middle, and high school. I always got teased about something. I felt as though people were always out to get me. If it wasn’t one thing, it would be something, anything, and damn was it annoying. My confidence fell. Insecurities built up into my soul. I was emotionally wrecked. I felt alone. I felt scared. I felt ugly inside, and out. Classmates, my own friends, teachers, and random students in the school would bully me about my looks. The thing that kept me from going insane was telling myself…”Hey…this won’t last. They won’t have control over me…and this is just a bad day, not a bad life”. I always thought I had like some ugly duckling turning into a swan situation of life, but it’s people. People can be cruel, disgusting, hateful, and insecure themselves. I was a beautiful kid with a huge heart. I will never change my heart. I always want to remain the same. I wasn’t ugly, it was media. I just would tell myself, I forgive you all…I was probably 16 when everything changed. I had the people who made fun of me, start to talk to me. I was extremely hateful. I hated those people. I thought they were so fake. I didn’t want them in my life. I thought that…if they couldn’t accept me before so why are you accepting me now. I didn’t think they were worth my time at all because I was never worth theirs. Growing up with all these experiences, and now having the unwanted attention of men and women… I didn’t like it at all. All this attention doesn’t make me feel good about myself. I feel good about myself because I make myself feel great. I am confident in myself, and don’t need people to make me feel low, or high about anything. Forgiveness is key (If you do not forgive, it is like drinking your own poison that infects and kills your soul slowly). I forgave. I learnt, and moved on. There’s a quote from the bible…”Dust you are, and dust you shall return”. We all will die and have the same gravestones. Get what I mean? You can dress up, look great, have all the things in the world, but guess what..we all end up in the same place. Stay humble. stay compassionate. Don’t hurt others in order to get them to feel your pain. Don’t fall to peer pressure to become a mean girl/boy, bully, or anything. Always, ALWAYS, put yourself in others shoes because if you realize what you’re doing may not be the right thing if it was happening to you, than it won’t be for others.

I wish this world could just love each other. I wish there wasn’t hate, and cruel issues among us. The real fact is that there will always be these issues, and there will always be those people who won’t be nice to you, but do not join them and become one of them. Be different. Be you. Brush aside comments. They do not have control over how you feel. Like the movie the Revenant says “Leave revenge up to the creator”. BTW go watch that movie it’s amazing.

STAY HUMBLE. STAY BEAUTIFUL. BEAUTY IS IN OUR SOUL. STAY BLESSED. STAY STRONG. YOU ARE LOVED. IGNORANCE IS BLISS. SO MUCH HATE IN THIS WORLD WHY JOIN IN?

Start 2016 with knowing your circle

2016. 2016 just happened, and I had felt like I lost so much in this small amount of time. Confusion, betrayal, hurt, pain, but forgiveness. I don’t have much friends, but understand this…you do not need the world of friends! People will let you down. This is something to remember, and always keep in mind. Man=humans=DISAPPOINTMENT. Last year and now, I have lost a lot of people I had been close to. There comes a time in your life where you have to re-evaluate who is in your life. Who is using you for your positive kind warm heart, and who is so miserable their toxicity just drains you. Does someone only contact you when they need something? Does your friends abandon you in times of despair? Do your friends just use you for support, but do not do the same for you? Who is in your circle? I’ll tell you this though. Find some friends that love and care for you. Find friends who would be that shoulder to cry on, and not laugh at your pain. Find friends who respect every level of your being. You need friends that have ambition, goals, and are going somewhere. If your friend is constantly nagging you about their “crappy” life, then that will get to you. You’ll start to think your life is also crap. ENERGY IS TRANSFERABLE= ENERGY IS CONTAGIOUS. Hang with the happy crowd. Talk to someone who inspires you, pushes you, loves you, cares for you.

Take 2016 to be a year of beautiful memories to be made with beautiful people. Don’t you deserve to be happy? Don’t you deserve to have amazing people in your life..because you’re amazing and never settle for less. If someone hurts you, let them go. The best revenge is to destroy them with a smile. Don’t let peoples negative actions impact you.

Know who’s around you, and know your circle.

Think about it.

Some days you’ll be so happy, and some days you’ll be questioning everything. Essentially some days are good, and some days may seem so bad. The beauty of it all is that even if you may seem like the world is crashing down, take a few deep breathes and try to feel a sense of peace. Once you think about everything that you cherish, and that makes you happy (even the smallest littlest things, moments, and people) everything is actually alright, and will be fine. It isn’t the worst thing that could ever happen and just remember everything you go through is a life experience that makes you grow. Let experiences make you better not bitter. Always strive to be positive because our negative thoughts are our comfort zones. We are so use to thinking negative outcomes and situations that we don’t realize we can change our way of thinking. Always think about the best even in the hardest times because you are your own drive to a better you, and a better way of life. Happiness is key. Happiness is what we should all aim for. If you feel like you are in your darkest days switch those thoughts around. Find the light in your life whether it be god, a lover, an activity, a TV series, and more! Never give up. Talk to someone about it. Energy is transferable so maybe it can be the people you are around. It’s a lifestyle change that everyone should think about. A positive way of life is a happy way of life.

Think about it.

To have, or not to have. What is the answer to our questions.

I’ve always wondered why some things are never good enough. Why do you crave more? What in our minds have made us to want more and more. Why can we not just be satisfied with what we have and what others have and not desire the things of which we cannot obtain…in our lifetime… are we suppose to possess all that we can by sacrificing time and money to those desirable things, moments etc. Who planted this into our minds…is it society? Is it power? What do we try to prove in our lifetime? We have this one life that we know will end one day, and we still tend to focus on the material things. How can we change this? Do we change our mindset? How do we have a mass change of mindsets. How do we change this world, or if we cannot change this world, how can we impact it to love what we have…to cherish what we have in our grasps and not sulk over what we do not. I read that happiness is what we make it from what we have, who we have, and what we can do with both. 
I want to find these answers.
Keep you posted. 
CJ