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Outlook of Love

Love? What is love?

Love isn’t held down to one

Is love felt in the same ways for everyone 

Love has no boundaries

Love has no flaws

Love is beautiful

Love is everything

Love is evergoing  

Love is stronger than the battles we face

Love is more pure than the water we taste

Love is something more

Love is something one day I hope we can all understand

Love is impeccable, but we just make it complicated

Love builds strong pillars to hold us down

Love is God

Love is in us all

I hope love always prevails 

And I hope we all understand the beauty of love

Good Vibes

Came across this song, and thought that the beauty of this song could relate to anyone, and not just towards love.

🎶Starting all over again is going to be rough…so rough, but we going to make it🎶

https://youtu.be/MljXBJv7mA8

Stay blessed

At times I feel stressed 

And at times I’m blessed

I didn’t know these struggles was god putting me through these tests 

There ain’t no other way just try to be strong 

Doesn’t matter whether the journey short or long

We going to make it through sooner or later 

 just got to put our heart mind and souls into it 

 And not to procrasintate for longer

Do you know who your friends are?

Friends.
What are friends for? Everyone in our lives will question their friends from time to time.

Always take time to evaluate your friends list/circle/group

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Who is your true friend?

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What makes a true friend?

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What happens when you find out your friend isn’t so great after all? Let-go.

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How do true friends act, or make you feel?

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Push Yourself

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You feel like things aren’t getting done? canva-arrow-mab5nccl-pw Maybe it isn’t so pick yourself up, and do something about it.

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Can’t think straight?
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It may seem hard to do all this..to pick yourself up when you feel your lowest.
I know it can be hard, but at least try.
You’re worth it.
Tell yourself you’re worth it.
Don’t give up on yourself even when you feel like the entire world has given up on you.
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I don’t want to say goodbye 

Saying goodbye can be the hardest thing in the world .

                                            Maybe that is the deepest sadness one can feel?

Saying goodbye doesn’t feel so good.

Saying goodbye is painful…

How do you even do it without going back a few times…

Maybe realizing in the end that you never wanted to say goodbye, but it was a need to be done.

Where do we go, how do we go about after we say goodbye?


          We don’t want to say goodbye. I know we wish we didn’t have to either. 


But I know…that I don’t want to say goodbye.

A Dark Time

Sometimes I am afraid.

I am afraid to be alone.

I don’t want to endure a specific journey of life by myself. We are told to be strong, but at times I am so weak. 

I find myself lost staring into the dark blank cieling in my room. 

Who am I suppose to be.

I’ve lost people, and a special one, and I’ve lost myself. Wounds are so fresh, I tell myself not to do anything crazy, I tell myself to not drown my feelings. 

I can keep telling myself things, but what I feel conquers over my strength. Is it too early , is this because I’m at the early stages of healing. I can’t help but blame, and keep putting blame

I’m so angry… I know I need to be strong, but all I want to do is SCREAM and CRY, and lay back down into my dark coma of frozen time. 

Are You Emotionally Intelligent?

Being EMOTIONALLY INTELLIGENT has its benefits.1081px-check_mark_23x20_02-svg

Emotional Intelligence aka EI, or EQ, is when a person can understand their own, and other people’s feelings. They are able to control these emotions so it impacts them in a
positive way.
Are you Emotionally Intelligent? LET’S FIND OUT!

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ARE YOU…

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    You know what makes you happy, and you know what makes you tick. Did you know that your emotions affect how you behave, and your thoughts? Even being self-aware affects your level of self-confidence.
  • Self-Managable?
    Whatever negative experiences you go through, you manage to overcome them. You understand how to control these emotions and behaviours that can be acted upon impulse.5127-eq-head
  • Socially Aware?
    You are able to recognize the emotions of others. You can identify the needs of people, and are comfortable in doing this.
  • Can you Manage Relationships?
    This is no problem for you. The relationships you have with people ar0425_emotionalintelligence-800x480e maintained well. Even meeting new people, you know how to develop those relationships into meaningful ones so you can womaxresdefaultrk well with others. You are a leader, and help others. Also, you know how to deal with a conflict when an issue arises in a relationship.
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Here are some quick and easy tips:

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Be Honest With Yourself
You know you’re feeling a type of way, but you deny it. People may ask you how you feel, and you tell them you’re doing okay when you’re not. Be honest, and open up. This is a part of being yourself, and learning to understand, and control your feelings.be-honest-sm
Understand The Feeling of Others
How do you react when someone is sad, mad, happy, etc? Understand other people’s body language because sometimes we are not able to see past their words, but their body language gives off their true feelings. Are you more negative, and not understanding towards someone when they are feeling down? Do you put yourself in other peoples shoes? It’s good to communicate to a close family member, or friend to help you see what some of your reactions are, and how you can improve because we are not always aware of our own actions/reactions.

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Look at both sides of the coin:
We are strong to our opinions, and values. When someone does not agree with us it can alter how we feel by making us feel upset, and aggravated. If you are ever in this type of situation, do not get upset, but try to understand why they agree, and think this way. Look at both sides of a story. Also, if you don’t agree with how someone feels, try to understand the different factors that could be making them feel like this. Always ask questions

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Don’t let our minds control us, we control our minds:
We are human so we realize we have these emotions, and feelings. We can’t stop ourselves from feeling, but we have the power in ourselves to decide how to react to how we feel. For example, someone says something to upset you, and you’re use to attacking back, and saying something to hurt them. This is where your emotional intelligence will kick in. Try taking deep breathes, and taking a moment to understand the situation. There are others ways to address an issue instead of lashing out. Always remember that something that does not make you angry, or sad the nextdsay is not worth dwelling, or thinking about. It is just a temporary feeling.

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Want to understand more about emotional intelligence?
Check out this website with more information and tips:

http://www.success.com/article/7-qualities-of-people-with-high-emotional-intelligence

 

 

 

Are You Materialistic?

Do you ever wonder why we buy many things,  but in the end we find that it does not make us happy.
Ah, materialimoney-root-of-evilsm.  Materialism consumes us from meme-thinking-face-1920x1080the
clothes we wear, products we choose to buy, technology we choose to use, and more!

Materialism is: “a way of thinking that gives too much importance to material possessions rather than to spiritual or intellectual things”

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The more money you have, it equals to a higher status in life, but this comes at a $price$, which you’d have to spend a lot to show a lot. Is it worth it? You may be a victim to the dollar bill, or coin. Money can also become an addiction. It is the root of all evil.

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You see someone who has it all, and they seem so happy having it all.  You start to think their life is genuinely better than yours. NEVER judge a book by its cover. You don’t know what problems they may be facing.

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Media brain washes people into thinking that if you don’t have a certain item, you are missing out. They even make people think that if they don’t obtain these possessions, they won’t be as happy. They make you find connections between that product & happiness. How cruel they trap us.

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When some are feeling down, they shop to fill voids. Retail therapy. Well, buying things you like can sure ease your moment of sadness, and stress, but once you don’t need that item, or desire it the way you use to…guess what, you’re going to start to feel sad…& stressed…again…yup…sigh.

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Everyone has some sort of social media network. We are always looking at what other individuals have. There is the pressure to have the top brands. In some social circles, if you don’t keep up with a certain lifestyle, you just won’t be a part of it anymore, and if you don’t have the funds, it sure is going to make your bank account plummet.   If only we could look beyond what everyone had, and just look at their character, and personalities. Wouldn’t the world be richer?

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Here’s some advice.
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Get rid of the clutter. Get rid of your possessions you do not need. Things you may desire now, may not be desired later.

Life is short. In the end, your possessions do not follow you to the grave. Live life to the fullest. EXPERIENCE LIFE.

Be grateful. Make a list of what you already have.  It’s the small pleasures in life we enjoy the most.

Find meaning in the items you want, or already have. Is/was it worth it?

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More?

Am I not aware…. of today’s society, or just not educated enough?

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download (1) I’m not saying expressing yourself through fashion is bad, but is there not more than the physicals of life?  How many are motivating and inspiring other women, but not by the make-up and the clothes they share on social media, but beyond what the eye can see. What’s going on? Are we deemed to impress? Are we really free?
download (2).jpg Do we take our rights of being equal into account? Do we strive to do more than just entertain the eyes of the young, the eyes of men and the eyes of many who don’t appreciate the complexity and beauty of our inner-selves? Why can’t some of our passions be more than to just decorate the physical body, but decorate the character of our souls and minds? Will this all take time?

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Let’s talk Anxiety

Let’s be real.

Anxiety is experienced by everyone at different times. No need to put others down if they’re in distress. Be there for one another. Make your communities strong. You are not alone. We have each other.

BUT…wait…What’s anxiety though?

WEB DEFINTION ”a feeling of worry, nervousness, or unease, typically about an imminent event or something with an uncertain outcome”

So you’re saying anxiety happens when we feel as though a dangerous outcome may occur.
Hmm…let’s break it down.

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Basically anxiety is made up of:
THOUGHTS (Think) x BODY SENSATIONS (Feel) x ACTIONS (Do)

  1. THOUGHTS  of anything that can possibly go wrong (negative thoughts, doubts,etc)
  2. BODY SENSATIONS of feeling weak, dizzy, the sweats, numb, pain in the chest, your hearts activity, etc
  3. ACTIONS we project from being anxious, such as hyperventilating, biting of nails, avoiding situations/people, ritualistic behaviours (WHAT in the world? Basically things we do a lot without being aware i.e. safe routes, safe clothes, comfort foods, checking the time)

So now we know the basics of what anxiety is…
HOW CAN WE COPE WITH ANXIETY?
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1.  THOUGHTS.

When we essentially start to think that something bad is going to happen, we tend to over-think about it. STOP OVER-THINKING! This brings in a toxic mind with toxic thoughts.  Do you really want this kind of energy?

Counter these thoughts with questions like:

  • What’s the worst thing that can happen? (But…did you die? Not to sound rude, but that kind of is the worst possible thing to happen)
  • I’m thinking all these negative thoughts, and I remember being in this situation before. So what did I do about it? What can I do about it? Always find solutions. Always overcome your obstacles. Be brave. Be strong!

2. BE AWARE. ALWAYS PUSH FORWARD, NOT BACKWARDS.

Learn to face what you’re fearing. BE AWARE. How did you start to become anxious? Who, What Where, When, Why, and How? Always challenge yourself. Step out of your comfort zone. NOTHING GROWS IN YOUR COMFORT ZONE EXCEPT MISERY.
Remember, it takes time to overcome obstacles. Be patient with yourself.

Easy steps for self development and growth:

  • What is the problem?
  • Find (I suggest type/write/audio record) solutions to that problem.
  • Set goals on how to overcome this problem with your solution.
  • Work on those goals. Never stop putting in that work. Nothing comes easy.
  • If there was no success the first time, then change your solutions, or change your goals, and try again. You are here for a reason, and it’s to overcome and become a stronger you.

3. TAKING CARE OF YOURSELF. KEEP BUSY.

  • Find a hobby you like. Learn something new. You have one life, go ahead and live it. Find things that interest you and pursue them.
  • Take your mind off of what is bothering you. Put some music on. Go for a walk, or go to the gym. There are also group work-out sessions at gyms.
  • Get enough sleep every night. With a lack of sleep, people tend to feel more anxious.

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This is a great site in how to overcome anxiety without taking medication. Check it out!
http://www.calmclinic.com/anxiety/how-to-overcome

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In need of someone to talk to? You are not alone. There are people who care.

  • Ontario has the Mental Health Helpline – 1-866-531-2600
  • Kids Help Phone: 1-800-668-6868
  • York Support Services Network: 1-855-310-COPE (2673)

International? I found an amazing site with several countries from around the world, and their helplines! Check it out!  http://togetherweare-strong.tumblr.com/helpline

 

 

I can get up

I can’t get up.
My sorrows are so heavy that I’m not so tough.
How did I get to be like this?
All I want to be is lifted, & all I wanted was bliss.
I can’t stand this feeling anymore.
I want to be free, and I want to do me!
I’m breaking my chains that keep me grounded.
Nothing will stop me now because today is my day.
I will no longer be bounded…
To the sorrows that keep me in jail &
To everyone who said I would fail!
I am free, & I am me.
I will succeed , just wait & see.
I can get up.
My sorrows are not so heavy .
I am to live this one life I have, and nothing can stop me.
I have learnt that life is filled with ups & downs, but keep your head held high with a beautiful crown.
Just take that first step & trust in oneself because one day you’ll look back & be so happy you took the time to invest in yourself
I am free, & I am me.
I will succeed , just wait & see.

Who said?

Who said you couldn’t do it?

You are capable of doing anything. Put your all and all into something. Do not fear. Things are not easy at first, but will be easier in the end. Never let anyone crush your dreams, and goals. Don’t give up. You can do this. There will be people who won’t support you. There will be people out there who will ridicule you, and bring toxic words, and thoughts into your mind. Be strong. You are capable. You are strong.

Who said you couldn’t do it? Let’s prove them wrong.

Letting go of Notions

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Look beyond what the eyes can see. Feel what the heart wants to feel. Don’t take life for granted. Life is short . Keep it simple.

Do not over-TAC (Think, Assume, Compare)

Everything is so different when you’re dating someone new. I was in a relationship for 5 years and we became so close that even the silence was beautiful together. We couldnt pull through , and didn’t work out. Very heart breaking to know that after all the years loving this one person, the love just couldn’t continue. I’m dating an amazing man now, but I find it very difficult. I find myself comparing at times, and I wish I didn’t. They are two different individuals with different thinking , emotions, and more. At times I find myself anxious and nervous because I feel as though I am boring my boyfriend. I don’t know how he feels when we are silent also. Our relationship hasn’t been that long, and I’m fearing about these small things. I’d have to take my small deep breathes, and realize with patience and time, our love will grow stronger. I was worrying about things I couldn’t control , such as the silence, days we didn’t have much to do , and more. remember this quote “you don’t miss the water until the well runs dry”. I realized that my boyfriend does make me happy, and if we are doing amazing so just imagine what months, and years down the line will bring.

Do not over assume, over think, and compare. It brings a negative mind, and toxcity to your thoughts.

Have a clear mind. Focus on the nows. You don’t know what you have till its gone, but you knew exactly what you had, and just took it for granted.

As everyone has heard of this quote “live as though it is your last days” so you should love as though it is your last days.

Ocams Razor. Keep it simple stupid.

Do not over-TAC (Think, Assume, Compare)