Oceans are moved when you cry. If you look up into the night sky you can see the stars glow bright to support your light. You’re not alone with the pain you feel because everything around you understands in their own way of existence. You are alive just as those are too. You don’t need a heart beat to be heard. Feel in ways you need to because you were meant to be painted with life, painted with tears, a picture to feel, all these moments of our lives.
What are friends for? Everyone in our lives will question their friends from time to time.
Always take time to evaluate your friends list/circle/group
Who is your true friend?
What makes a true friend?
What happens when you find out your friend isn’t so great after all? Let-go.
How do true friends act, or make you feel?
They make you feel valuable – You are needed, important, and you are not left out. A true friend will always make time for you even when they could be the busiest person in the world.
They support you – Giving you positivity, and motivation in times of need. They look out for you when you need good vibes.
They communicate with you – Your true friend will have open communication with you. Nothing has to be a secret. Trust is there. They will not lie to you about small, or big things.
They stay true to their word – Your true friends will not go back on their promises, but even if something did happen, you have that open communication where they’d explain with %100 honesty.
They don’t take advantage of you – Your true friends will not use you for favors, such as money, a ride, convienance of hanging out when they’re bored, or just to hang with you for some sort of popularity.
We get upset about how life is turning out, but forget
we hold the key to
turn things round
Feeling upset? Change how you feel.
You feel like things aren’t getting done? Maybe it isn’t so pick yourself up, and do something about it.
Stuck on a problem? Set goals, make a routine, write down steps, don’t give up.
Can’t think straight?
Take a shower, take a walk, take a break.
Don’t burn yourself out. Don’t over do things.
It may seem hard to do all this..to pick yourself up when you feel your lowest.
I know it can be hard, but at least try.
You’re worth it.
Tell yourself you’re worth it.
Don’t give up on yourself even when you feel like the entire world has given up on you.
Saying goodbye can be the hardest thing in the world .
Maybe that is the deepest sadness one can feel?
Saying goodbye doesn’t feel so good.
Saying goodbye is painful…
How do you even do it without going back a few times…
Maybe realizing in the end that you never wanted to say goodbye, but it was a need to be done.
Where do we go, how do we go about after we say goodbye?
We don’t want to say goodbye. I know we wish we didn’t have to either.
But I know…that I don’t want to say goodbye.
Sometimes I am afraid.
I am afraid to be alone.
I don’t want to endure a specific journey of life by myself. We are told to be strong, but at times I am so weak.
I find myself lost staring into the dark blank cieling in my room.
Who am I suppose to be.
I’ve lost people, and a special one, and I’ve lost myself. Wounds are so fresh, I tell myself not to do anything crazy, I tell myself to not drown my feelings.
I can keep telling myself things, but what I feel conquers over my strength. Is it too early , is this because I’m at the early stages of healing. I can’t help but blame, and keep putting blame.
I’m so angry… I know I need to be strong, but all I want to do is SCREAM and CRY, and lay back down into my dark coma of frozen time.
Actor/ Model/ Hip-Hop Artist
Check out Isaiah William’s debut track + video >> The Motto <<
Isaiah Williams is just 19 years old, and chasing his dreams! He is an Actor, Model, and Music Artist. He was raised outside of the Down-Town Toronto Area. Isaiah’s motto is that he doesn’t want to work hard for just the money, but he has the passion, and love for music. Isaiah Williams isn’t new to the music, and acting scene! When he was younger, he was in commercials for big companies, such as Coco-Cola, and Huggies.
His genre of music is hip-hop, and rap with a little bit of R&B. Mr. Williams willbe working on a more flavourful upbeat mix-tape with all kinds of radio, and party music. STAY TUNED. The #1 artist that inspires Isaiah Williams is Drake because of their similar childhood. Drake helps youth grow towards their dream, and Isaiah respects that, which motivates him even more to get out there to follow his dreams. Isaiah Williams says, “Chasing your dream is fun. It puts fire in your heart because you realize how bad you want something that hasn’t happened for you yet, but dreams do come true, and there will always be haters trying to stop you. They will try, and bring you down, but you have to hold your head high, and keep going.” He wants to inspire other youth as well, He wants to show them that no matter where, or how you grew up (rich, or poor), it just takes effort to meet the right people, and end up in the right places.
He says, “you have to be careful nowadays when it comes to who you call your friends, but I love my family to the moon and back, and they’re my biggest inspiration in everything I do.”
Everyone has there personal issues and personal struggles, whether it’s school, work, friends, haters or financial. He’s learnt as he’s matured, and realized that no matter what stresses him, the show must go on. “You have to flick that dirt off your sh
oulders, and hold a great big smile across your face.”
Isaiah Williams has learnt to eliminate toxic people from his life, and kept busy, which made him more productive. “Not everybody will believe in you at first, even some of my own family members told me I wasn’t good enough to succeed in the music/acting industry. I can tell you their answers changed when they seen me start to make moves.”
His goals are to pursue his music, and acting career. He wants to inspire youth by going to their middle, and high-schools to talk about confidence, ambition, and giving back to the community since he will be doing that.
Isaiah Williams advice –> “Patience is key, and nothing happens over night.”
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Upcoming recording artist/beat maker from Toronto, Canada is breaking right into the music scene.
Check out his latest track: –> Dope Nasty <–
Nightmare Nasty has inspired himself to take on his dreams, and make it into reality. As a kid, he always had a fascination with poetry, which transitioned into writing verses, and choruses. He felt like he was in his own little world every time he wrote lyrics; it was like his own sanctuary. Growing up, he wanted to be a cartoonist, but when Nightmare Nasty was 12 years of age, he decided to create music.
Nightmare Nasty’s tracks, and music are inspired by artists, such as Lloyd Banks, Drake, and Stromae. His music fits into the genre of Hip-Hop with a mix of Ambient/Atmospheric sounds. What inspired this artist was living in the city of Toronto. “I live and breath the city through my music”. Nightmare Nasty wants to inspire young teens to follow their dreams. Following his dreams came with hardships, but what motivates him the most is getting through hard times, and success following through.
One of the struggles he has been through was being an Indie artist from Toronto. He’s had a lot of experience dealing with artists, producers, etc. and he got to know people’s real intentions. “It’s a dirty business but you learn to separate the opportunists from the real supporters. Beats, features, music videos, and all that kind of stuff comes out of my own pocket”. It’s all a part of the struggle, but Nightmare Nasty wouldn’t change it for the world. “The independent music hustle is no joke that’s for sure”.
Nightmare Nasty has experienced discrimination because of the colour of his skin, and nationality. People used to tell him that he shouldn’t make music because he was brown skinned. He said, “I remember a time when NOBODY took me serious because of my nationality”. To overcome hardships Nightmare Nasty had to ask himself if the music scene was really what he wanted to do. “I knew this life wouldn’t be easy. I get discouraged at times, but I constantly remind myself why I’m doing it, and the positivity I can bring from sharing this music with the world”.
Nightmare Nasty’s advice:
“I have days when I feel discouraged. We all go through it, but life has a strange way of teaching you important lessons. My way of pushing through my obstacles is constantly reminding myself of how important music is to me. My passion for music won’t allow me to quit. I feel like I owe it to myself to follow my dreams”.
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IG: Nightmare Nasty
Being EMOTIONALLY INTELLIGENT has its benefits.
Emotional Intelligence aka EI, or EQ, is when a person can understand their own, and other people’s feelings. They are able to control these emotions so it impacts them in a
Are you Emotionally Intelligent? LET’S FIND OUT!
You know what makes you happy, and you know what makes you tick. Did you know that your emotions affect how you behave, and your thoughts? Even being self-aware affects your level of self-confidence.
Whatever negative experiences you go through, you manage to overcome them. You understand how to control these emotions and behaviours that can be acted upon impulse.
- Socially Aware?
You are able to recognize the emotions of others. You can identify the needs of people, and are comfortable in doing this.
- Can you Manage Relationships?
This is no problem for you. The relationships you have with people are maintained well. Even meeting new people, you know how to develop those relationships into meaningful ones so you can work well with others. You are a leader, and help others. Also, you know how to deal with a conflict when an issue arises in a relationship.
Do you want to be more emotionally intelligent? It’s quite easy & and improving your emotional intelligence can be done anytime in your life-time.
Here are some quick and easy tips:
Be Honest With Yourself
You know you’re feeling a type of way, but you deny it. People may ask you how you feel, and you tell them you’re doing okay when you’re not. Be honest, and open up. This is a part of being yourself, and learning to understand, and control your feelings.
Understand The Feeling of Others
How do you react when someone is sad, mad, happy, etc? Understand other people’s body language because sometimes we are not able to see past their words, but their body language gives off their true feelings. Are you more negative, and not understanding towards someone when they are feeling down? Do you put yourself in other peoples shoes? It’s good to communicate to a close family member, or friend to help you see what some of your reactions are, and how you can improve because we are not always aware of our own actions/reactions.
Look at both sides of the coin:
We are strong to our opinions, and values. When someone does not agree with us it can alter how we feel by making us feel upset, and aggravated. If you are ever in this type of situation, do not get upset, but try to understand why they agree, and think this way. Look at both sides of a story. Also, if you don’t agree with how someone feels, try to understand the different factors that could be making them feel like this. Always ask questions
Don’t let our minds control us, we control our minds:
We are human so we realize we have these emotions, and feelings. We can’t stop ourselves from feeling, but we have the power in ourselves to decide how to react to how we feel. For example, someone says something to upset you, and you’re use to attacking back, and saying something to hurt them. This is where your emotional intelligence will kick in. Try taking deep breathes, and taking a moment to understand the situation. There are others ways to address an issue instead of lashing out. Always remember that something that does not make you angry, or sad the nextdsay is not worth dwelling, or thinking about. It is just a temporary feeling.
Want to understand more about emotional intelligence?
Check out this website with more information and tips:
Do you ever wonder why we buy many things, but in the end we find that it does not make us happy.
Ah, materialism. Materialism consumes us from the
clothes we wear, products we choose to buy, technology we choose to use, and more!
Materialism is: “a way of thinking that gives too much importance to material possessions rather than to spiritual or intellectual things”
Why Do We Value Material Possessions So Much?
Power & Status
The more money you have, it equals to a higher status in life, but this comes at a $price$, which you’d have to spend a lot to show a lot. Is it worth it? You may be a victim to the dollar bill, or coin. Money can also become an addiction. It is the root of all evil.
We Think The Grass is Greener On The Other Side
You see someone who has it all, and they seem so happy having it all. You start to think their life is genuinely better than yours. NEVER judge a book by its cover. You don’t know what problems they may be facing.
Media brain washes people into thinking that if you don’t have a certain item, you are missing out. They even make people think that if they don’t obtain these possessions, they won’t be as happy. They make you find connections between that product & happiness. How cruel they trap us.
It Makes Us Feel Better. FILLING VOIDS
When some are feeling down, they shop to fill voids. Retail therapy. Well, buying things you like can sure ease your moment of sadness, and stress, but once you don’t need that item, or desire it the way you use to…guess what, you’re going to start to feel sad…& stressed…again…yup…sigh.
We Just Want to Fit In
Everyone has some sort of social media network. We are always looking at what other individuals have. There is the pressure to have the top brands. In some social circles, if you don’t keep up with a certain lifestyle, you just won’t be a part of it anymore, and if you don’t have the funds, it sure is going to make your bank account plummet. If only we could look beyond what everyone had, and just look at their character, and personalities. Wouldn’t the world be richer?
Do you think you’re materialistic, or just want to limit yourself so you’re not consumed by materialism?
Here’s some advice.
Get rid of the clutter. Get rid of your possessions you do not need. Things you may desire now, may not be desired later.
Life is short. In the end, your possessions do not follow you to the grave. Live life to the fullest. EXPERIENCE LIFE.
Be grateful. Make a list of what you already have. It’s the small pleasures in life we enjoy the most.
Find meaning in the items you want, or already have. Is/was it worth it?
Am I not aware…. of today’s society, or just not educated enough?
Is it just me, or do most women mostly have strong influences on the fashion and beauty industries, but tell me how many women are out there expressing their voices and opinions of things other than that?
I’m not saying expressing yourself through fashion is bad, but is there not more than the physicals of life? How many are motivating and inspiring other women, but not by the make-up and the clothes they share on social media, but beyond what the eye can see. What’s going on? Are we deemed to impress? Are we really free?
Do we take our rights of being equal into account? Do we strive to do more than just entertain the eyes of the young, the eyes of men and the eyes of many who don’t appreciate the complexity and beauty of our inner-selves? Why can’t some of our passions be more than to just decorate the physical body, but decorate the character of our souls and minds? Will this all take time?
Can you see past my image, but read deeply into the heart of my words because my soul is inside where my voice could not be heard. Are we not more than the beauty and clothes that we wear?
Let’s be real.
Anxiety is experienced by everyone at different times. No need to put others down if they’re in distress. Be there for one another. Make your communities strong. You are not alone. We have each other.
BUT…wait…What’s anxiety though?
WEB DEFINTION ”a feeling of worry, nervousness, or unease, typically about an imminent event or something with an uncertain outcome”
So you’re saying anxiety happens when we feel as though a dangerous outcome may occur.
Hmm…let’s break it down.
Basically anxiety is made up of:
THOUGHTS (Think) x BODY SENSATIONS (Feel) x ACTIONS (Do)
- THOUGHTS of anything that can possibly go wrong (negative thoughts, doubts,etc)
- BODY SENSATIONS of feeling weak, dizzy, the sweats, numb, pain in the chest, your hearts activity, etc
- ACTIONS we project from being anxious, such as hyperventilating, biting of nails, avoiding situations/people, ritualistic behaviours (WHAT in the world? Basically things we do a lot without being aware i.e. safe routes, safe clothes, comfort foods, checking the time)
So now we know the basics of what anxiety is…
HOW CAN WE COPE WITH ANXIETY?
When we essentially start to think that something bad is going to happen, we tend to over-think about it. STOP OVER-THINKING! This brings in a toxic mind with toxic thoughts. Do you really want this kind of energy?
Counter these thoughts with questions like:
- What’s the worst thing that can happen? (But…did you die? Not to sound rude, but that kind of is the worst possible thing to happen)
- I’m thinking all these negative thoughts, and I remember being in this situation before. So what did I do about it? What can I do about it? Always find solutions. Always overcome your obstacles. Be brave. Be strong!
2. BE AWARE. ALWAYS PUSH FORWARD, NOT BACKWARDS.
Learn to face what you’re fearing. BE AWARE. How did you start to become anxious? Who, What Where, When, Why, and How? Always challenge yourself. Step out of your comfort zone. NOTHING GROWS IN YOUR COMFORT ZONE EXCEPT MISERY.
Remember, it takes time to overcome obstacles. Be patient with yourself.
Easy steps for self development and growth:
- What is the problem?
- Find (I suggest type/write/audio record) solutions to that problem.
- Set goals on how to overcome this problem with your solution.
- Work on those goals. Never stop putting in that work. Nothing comes easy.
- If there was no success the first time, then change your solutions, or change your goals, and try again. You are here for a reason, and it’s to overcome and become a stronger you.
3. TAKING CARE OF YOURSELF. KEEP BUSY.
- Find a hobby you like. Learn something new. You have one life, go ahead and live it. Find things that interest you and pursue them.
- Take your mind off of what is bothering you. Put some music on. Go for a walk, or go to the gym. There are also group work-out sessions at gyms.
- Get enough sleep every night. With a lack of sleep, people tend to feel more anxious.
This is a great site in how to overcome anxiety without taking medication. Check it out!
In need of someone to talk to? You are not alone. There are people who care.
- Ontario has the Mental Health Helpline – 1-866-531-2600
- Kids Help Phone: 1-800-668-6868
- York Support Services Network: 1-855-310-COPE (2673)
International? I found an amazing site with several countries from around the world, and their helplines! Check it out! http://togetherweare-strong.tumblr.com/helpline